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Writing Your Wedding Vows

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Writing your own wedding vows can make it all a little more meaningful, but putting the pen to the paper is not always that easy. These tips should help you write your wedding vows.

Getting Started

Instead of thinking about what you will say, think about how you feel. Think about your relationship, why you fell in love, and all the promises you want to make. Religion and culture might help it take shape. Poetry and all your favorite love stories can make it a little more romantic. Take note of your favorite phrases along your journey to creating your own.

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Think About Your Promises

Your wedding vows are promises. Before you put the pen to the paper, decide what your expectations are in the relationship. Share your emotions, values and ideas. Make a list of words that define your relationship. Your list might include respect, cherish and love. Regardless of whether you are writing your vows together or separately, you should sit down and discuss important expectations for the relationship and for the promises involved.

Create an Outline for Wedding Vows

You should create an outline that begins with the reasons this other person has your heart and all the reasons you cannot imagine a life without them in it. You might create a short story without saying too much. You do not want your wedding vows to be too wordy. With that in mind, try to convey your feelings and how you spiraled into an endless abyss of love with them. Think about the journey that keeps you falling deeper every single day. Relationships are not perfect. Your vows are promises that you will keep when things become less than the perfect fairy tale they are today. Make sure your story flows into your list of promises.

Writing Unique Wedding Vows

You might open with a quote or a story, but try to make your vows your own. The way to make your vows unique is to project your own feelings into your writing. It is okay to include traditions, such as a unity cup with special words about the symbolism it creates. It is okay to include a special reading, poem or a scripture from the bible. Get creative and incorporate your own feelings and thoughts.

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Practice Makes Perfect

Practice is a must for all public speaking. Even when surrounded by friends and family, you will probably be a little nervous. Iron out the wrinkles and make it flow. Feel comfortable saying your vows. Avoid the feeling of reading, and speak from the heart. When you find your cadence and say it perfectly, you might decide to make some edits. For this reason, write your wedding vows a few weeks before your wedding day, allowing time for all the practice and changes.

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The Crystal Ballroom

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